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20 Reasons Why Intelligent People Fail

Intelligent Failure Woman

This is a really interesting list from Robert Sternberg’s book,

In Search of the Human Mind

1. Lack of motivation. A talent is irrelevant if a person is not motivated to use it. Motivation may be external (for example, social approval) or internal (satisfaction from a job well-done, for instance). External sources tend to be transient, while internal sources tend to produce more consistent performance.

2. Lack of impulse control. Habitual impulsiveness gets in the way of optimal performance. Some people do not bring their full intellectual resources to bear on a problem but go with the first solution that pops into their heads.

3. Lack of perserverance and perseveration. Some people give up too easily, while others are unable to stop even when the quest will clearly be fruitless.…

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Whipping the Sea – Where Do You Place the Blame?

XerxesIn 483 BC the king of Persia, a man named Xerxes set out to conquer the Greek mainland. (You may remember Xerxes as the main bad guy from the movie “300”). Xerxes attacked Greece to avenge the failure of his father, Darius, who lost a major battle against the Greeks at a place called Marathon about a decade earlier.

In order to get his army over to Greece by land he had to build a bridge over a strait of water called the Hellespont. His engineers started construction on the bridge but before it was finished, a terrible storm came and destroyed all the progress they had made. Xerxes was so upset at what happened that he had every engineer beheaded then sent soldiers down to the banks of the strait and actually had them whip the sea 300 times for its failure to obey him and comply with his plans.…

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Motivated Monday – The World Is Against Me

Monday MotivationMonday is my favorite day. It is the start of a new week and you get to make it whatever you want. You’ve had time over the weekend to relax and digest what you did the previous week and then decide how you can improve the next one. It is like New Year’s Day that comes every week.

Many people hate Mondays because they have to head back to work after a fun weekend. I don’t blame them. But to try and help, I decided to start a series of posts called “Motivation Mondays.” Every Monday I will post a motivational poem or quote from some of my favorite authors in history, hoping that it will help give someone out there a little boost of motivation for the day.…

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Friends or Foes? – 5 Ways to Find the Right Buddies

Pick Your Friends Wisely

Henry Ford, Thomas Edison, Warren G. Harding, and Harvey Firestone

It has been said that you are the average of your 5 closest friends. That means, in general, that your income, family structure, house and cars, even your personality are all pretty similar to the people you are around most often. Even though we are all unique, many of your daily actions and lifetime goals fit in pretty closely with the ambitions of your friends.

All parents have seen this happen whenever their child gets a new best friend. Their child starts to bring home different behaviors almost instantly. I am always amazed at how much my children change when they get a new class for school. It seems like the new peer group at school sends home a new vocabulary, an interest in different toys, changes in their taste in clothes, and sometimes a bad attitude.…

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7 Tips to Help Your Kids Set Back-to-School Goals

Kids Goals 1It is coming. In some cities it has already begun, in others it is on the near horizon. It’s the beginning of what many parents call the “most wonderful time of the year”. It is time for the kids to go back to school! The summer has been full of swimming, games, and vacations. Sure, it has had it’s wonderful moments but now the honeymoon of summer is wearing thin and parents across the country look forward to a normal routine and maybe even a little free time to think for a change.

But with the excitement also comes some stress as we think about how our kids will perform with new teachers, new classes, homework, projects, and the social experiences of school. The major concern at our home is whether or not this is the year that our oldest child will start to actually care about his grades and take some accountability for the quality of his effort.…

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5 Steps to Better Friendships

friendshipThis weekend I had the amazing opportunity to travel with a group of young people to visit a training center for the mentally disabled. Most of the patients living there have been there since they were born and now range in age from 40-65. They all suffer from different mental disabilities. Some are able to communicate, some just stare blankly into space. Some are limited to wheelchairs, others can get up and move around. Just about all of them have the mental development of a child between the ages of 3-7.

We spent the morning talking with them, singing children’s songs, and interacting in any way we could. What impressed me most was the unconditional acceptance and love that these wonderful patients had for anyone who would come near them.…

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Friday Hypothetical #6 – Your Brilliant Child?

Hypothetical BabyWelcome to our highly debated “Friday Hypothetical” series! I hope you leave a comment and join the debate!

Background for this week:

My wife and I had a baby girl at the start of the summer and she is, of course, the most beautiful and brilliant child in history. In that light, I present to you the hypothetical question for the week, which I found at scienceforums.com

Dilemma:

You discover that your wonderful, and incredibly smart, one-year-old child is, because of a mix-up at the hospital, not yours. What would you do? Would you want to exchange the child to try to correct the “mistake”?

Leave your thoughts below and share with your friends to get them in on the action!

Kris

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Walking in Circles? – Six Steps to Define Your Vision

Which of your legs is longer, the right or the left? You may be tempted to say they are both the same but the truth is we all have one leg that is a little longer than the other. It might be a microscopic difference but it is there nonetheless. Because of this, if you were placed in the middle of a completely barren desert with no mountains or physical landmarks in sight, your attempts to walk in a straight line would be futile. Eventually, if you walked long enough, you would come across some footprints in the sand, your own footprints. Without a goal or something to walk towards, your shorter leg would eventually cause you to walk in an enormous circle and come right back to where you started. It would make no difference how fast you ran or how hard you worked. With no fixed point to move towards, all of your efforts would get you right back where you started. Without a goal to shoot for, you are just running in circles or meandering your way in a general direction. This is the reason why we need to come up with a "vision statement" for our life and then set goals to help us move towards that vision. What is a vision statement? A vision statement is your declaration of what you want out of life. It is your opportunity to answer the question, “When I get to the end of my life, I will be the most disappointed if I never accomplished ___________.” Your vision statement is a written list of all those things you dream about when you look into the future. It covers as many aspects of your life as possible in as much detail as possible.

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