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Stop Staring at Phelps! 4 Ways to Avoid Losing at Life

I love the Olympics because there are always so many amazing stories of dedication, perseverance, and sportsmanship. The recent Olympics in Rio de Janeiro were no exception.

But one of the best life lessons I observed this year was not an example of any of the noble qualities listed above. This life lesson comes from the tragic and cautionary tale of Chad le Clos from South Africa.

Chad le Clos is a star freestyle and butterfly swimmer, having won a world champion and Olympic gold medal. In the 2012 Olympics he even beat Michael Phelps in the 200-meter butterfly, Phelp’s favorite race. When Phelps announced he was coming out of retirement to participate in 2016 Olympic Games, an instant rivalry match was created.

The day of the race came.… Read the rest!

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Building Your House Brick by Brick

What would you be willing to sacrifice now to build something that would vastly improve your future?


How long would you have the patience to prepare before you saw any results?


I learned an important lesson from an unlikely source.

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Thinking Like Siri – A Better Way to Get Through Life

Photo courtesy of Navigon

Photo courtesy of Navigon

A few years ago my wife and I took a trip to Costa Rica. Upon arrival we rented a car and headed out to our first destination which was a few hours away. I had a map so I figured I’d be in great shape. About 20 minutes into the drive I found myself practically lost in the tangle of unmarked streets and dirt roads. Frustrated, I turned to Siri for help. If you’ve ever been the passenger on a road trip with a man, you know how hard it is for us to ask for help.

I typed the address to our destination in my phone and instantly Siri had discovered the ideal route to get there. We were on our way.… Read the rest!

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Process Over Product – The Truth About Success

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Let me start this post with a math problem. Wait! Don’t click away so fast. I hate math too but bear with me for just a moment. I promise it will be worth it.

Think of some possible solutions for the following equation:

(______ + ______ – _______) x ______ = 100

The truth is that there are literally an infinite combination of numbers that you could put into those spaces to get the answer of 100.

Now let’s look at another equation:

(25 + 40 – 15) x 2 = ________

This equation gives us just one answer: 100. Every time, no question.

What’s the point?

Look at the first equation again. You could stare at the answer (100) all day long and come up with a number of different ways to fill in those blanks, but in the end you would realize that you couldn’t even make a dent in the number of possibilities.… Read the rest!

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The Dirty, Beautiful Secret About Setting Goals

This past weekend my wife and I had the opportunity to be in Colorado for a dental school reunion. On Saturday, we decided to take a day-trip up to the mountains for a hike. The hike started at Echo Lake, near the base of the beautiful Mt. Evans. The trail would follow a river up the mountain to another lake.

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The hike was difficult but a lot of fun. We crossed the river a few times on wooden planks and stumbled through some thick trees but eventually we made it to the lake. It was absolutely beautiful and definitely worth the hike.

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But guess what? We noticed that the trail continued up the mountain further. We had plenty of water and a little more energy so we decided to keep going and see where it led.… Read the rest!

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Ready…Aim…Failure!

Laser Guided

We’ve all heard the instructions for shooting a gun: “Ready, Aim, Fire!”

Many life coaches or motivational speakers will teach people that the road to success is all about getting ready, aiming at your goal, and then going straight for it.

The problem is, they are wrong.

Life doesn’t work that way and neither does the pursuit of success or happiness.

Life works a lot more like a laser-guided missile where it is fired towards a target and then it is constantly re-aiming and adjusting its path around obstacles until it hits the target.

Yes, it is important to be prepared and it is important to have your goal in your sight, but rarely is that path a direct line without any setbacks. Constant adjusting and course correcting are needed when obstacles arise in order to achieve your goals.… Read the rest!

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7 Tips to Help Your Kids Set Back-to-School Goals

Kids Goals 1It is coming. In some cities it has already begun, in others it is on the near horizon. It’s the beginning of what many parents call the “most wonderful time of the year”. It is time for the kids to go back to school! The summer has been full of swimming, games, and vacations. Sure, it has had it’s wonderful moments but now the honeymoon of summer is wearing thin and parents across the country look forward to a normal routine and maybe even a little free time to think for a change.

But with the excitement also comes some stress as we think about how our kids will perform with new teachers, new classes, homework, projects, and the social experiences of school. The major concern at our home is whether or not this is the year that our oldest child will start to actually care about his grades and take some accountability for the quality of his effort.… Read the rest!

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Walking in Circles? – Six Steps to Define Your Vision

Which of your legs is longer, the right or the left? You may be tempted to say they are both the same but the truth is we all have one leg that is a little longer than the other. It might be a microscopic difference but it is there nonetheless. Because of this, if you were placed in the middle of a completely barren desert with no mountains or physical landmarks in sight, your attempts to walk in a straight line would be futile. Eventually, if you walked long enough, you would come across some footprints in the sand, your own footprints. Without a goal or something to walk towards, your shorter leg would eventually cause you to walk in an enormous circle and come right back to where you started. It would make no difference how fast you ran or how hard you worked. With no fixed point to move towards, all of your efforts would get you right back where you started. Without a goal to shoot for, you are just running in circles or meandering your way in a general direction. This is the reason why we need to come up with a "vision statement" for our life and then set goals to help us move towards that vision. What is a vision statement? A vision statement is your declaration of what you want out of life. It is your opportunity to answer the question, “When I get to the end of my life, I will be the most disappointed if I never accomplished ___________.” Your vision statement is a written list of all those things you dream about when you look into the future. It covers as many aspects of your life as possible in as much detail as possible.

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