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Dodging Raindrops

The other day my family and I were out for an evening walk. As we headed home, dark clouds started rolling in and we knew we probably wouldn’t make it back without getting wet. Sure enough, the rain started falling just as we entered our neighborhood. We all hurried down the street and into the house but when we got there I noticed that one of my sons was missing. I went back out in the rain and found him running in an erratic pattern in front of the house. His face was one of distress as he seemed to be going in circles. This is my child that typically hates getting wet.

I yelled to him, “What are you doing?!!”

“I hate getting wet!” he screamed back.…

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Regret

Regrets

“I’d rather regret the things I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.” – Lucille Ball

I’m a pretty conservative guy.

I usually play it pretty safe.

And that’s one thing I don’t always like about myself.

Sure, there are times when it is better to be cautious and not jump into everything with eyes wide shut. But usually the problem is not the risk, it is that I lack the self-confidence to see myself succeeding at the great task. Self-doubt tries to creep in whenever it can.

I watched the pattern happen over and over again: guy in the glass 2

  1. I’d get an idea
  2. I’d start playing it out in my mind and making plans to execute it.
  3. I’d get really excited about the potential.
  4. I’d think of one possible scenario that would make it not work perfectly.

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3 Steps for Performing Under Pressure

Pressure 4How do some people have the ability to stay calm and deliver results in stressful situations? Why do some people “freeze” under pressure? The other day when I was driving to work I heard an interview with hall of fame baseball manager Tony LaRussa. He was asked whether or not some baseball players are born with the ability to perform under pressure.

“Absolutely not. Performing under pressure is a skill that can be learned by anybody.”

The interviewer was a little surprised at the answer and asked him what he meant. LaRussa went on to explain that his organization used a 3-step method to actually teach players how to achieve great results in pressure situations. The steps are: Preparation, Repetition, and Process.

Pressure 1#1 – Preparation.…

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Pulling the Trigger – Start Making Those Tough Decisions

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Have you ever been really excited about a new opportunity but never were able to pull the trigger and go for it? Was it because of fear, worry, or maybe over-analysis? And then, before you realized it, the opportunity had come and gone and you missed out.

As a young boy I really looked forward to the Heap Family Reunion which was a 3-4 day camping trip we did every year in the beautiful White Mountains of Arizona. Every day my cousins and I would grab our BB guns and head out in search of any small rodent we could find. We had some great adventures chasing chipmunks into holes and squirrels up trees.

One day I was hunting with my dad and brother when all of a sudden my dad grabbed my arm and pointed to the base of a nearby tree.…

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Passing Through Life’s Storms

Riding in Life's StormsLast Tuesday morning I hopped on my bike for my early morning bike ride. I leave my house at 5 am so it is pretty dark out. I couldn’t see any clouds and the streets were dry but as I pulled out of my driveway, I could see lightening far to the north of me and also way down to the south. I figured that they were storms that had passed during the night and that I would have no problem on my ride. (I could write a whole other post about paying attention to the warning signs life gives us.)

For the first 10 miles of he ride,everything was perfect and I really enjoyed the cool morning air. Then the streets started getting really wet and it was obvious a lot of rain had recently hit the area.…

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5 Ways to Stop Focusing On the Obstacles

Obstacles Flat TireFor those who have followed the blog for a while you know that I really enjoy road cycling. I started riding in high school with my dad and then raced for Arizona State University in college. It is one of my favorite ways to exercise and spend time in the fresh air thinking to myself. Actually, it is where I come up with most of my blog posts.

Road bikes have very narrow wheels and skinny tires. Because of this, all of the weight from the bike and rider is transmitted down onto two small points where the front and back tires hit the road. The narrow tires make the bike go faster. The downside is that any little rock or piece of glass you run over has an increased chance of puncturing your tire.…

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Why Perfectionists Are Often the Biggest Failures

perfectionismA few years ago on a college campus, a ceramics professor decided to try an experiment on one of his classes. At the start of the semester he divided the class into two groups and explained that each group would be graded differently.

Group 1 would be graded on the total number of pots they could create throughout the semester, with a minor importance given to quality.

Group 2 would be graded on just one pot. They had all semester to work on just one pot so they better make it impressive.

At the end of the semester, the students all turned in their work for grading. To the professor’s amusement, the 5 highest quality pots all came from the group who was focused on quantity over quality.

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Get In the Pool! Overcoming the Fear of Failure

Get in the pool

Summer is here and in Arizona it means some really hot weather. Those of us who live here spend time moving from an air-conditioned house to an air-conditioned car to the air-conditioned store and back again. Or we end up in a swimming pool.

As soon as our kids are out of school, they start swim team. Every morning they go to one of the public pools for an hour and work on their swim strokes. Then, every Thursday night is the swim meet, where they can compete for a ribbon.

My oldest son is a really good swimmer. He learned to swim really young and he is just a natural in the water.

He also has a tough time wanting to go and compete.

He feels most comfortable staying at home where his world is predictable and there is little fear of failure.…

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Stretch! 3 Ways to Do More With What You Have

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The teacher stopped the presentation and asked for a volunteer from the class. A young lady was the first to raise her hand and was brought to the front of the room.

“I want you to stand against this wall and reach your hands up as high as they can go.” said the teacher.

The young lady went up on the tips of her toes and reached her hands high up the wall, touching a spot with her finger tips.

“That’s as high as you can go?”

“Yes”

“You’re sure?”

When she answered affirmatively again, he stood up on a chair and put a piece of tape on the wall where the tips of her fingers had reached.

Then he took out a $100 bill and told her, “I will give you $100 if you can reach higher than that piece of tape.”

The young lady went back to the wall, got on her tip toes, reached her arms up and then somehow stretched her fingertips about an inch past the tape.…

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