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“I’d rather regret the things I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.” – Lucille Ball

I’m a pretty conservative guy.

I usually play it pretty safe.

And that’s one thing I don’t always like about myself.

Sure, there are times when it is better to be cautious and not jump into everything with eyes wide shut. But usually the problem is not the risk, it is that I lack the self-confidence to see myself succeeding at the great task. Self-doubt tries to creep in whenever it can.

I watched the pattern happen over and over again: guy in the glass 2

  1. I’d get an idea
  2. I’d start playing it out in my mind and making plans to execute it.
  3. I’d get really excited about the potential.
  4. I’d think of one possible scenario that would make it not work perfectly.

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5 Ways to Stop Focusing On the Obstacles

Obstacles Flat TireFor those who have followed the blog for a while you know that I really enjoy road cycling. I started riding in high school with my dad and then raced for Arizona State University in college. It is one of my favorite ways to exercise and spend time in the fresh air thinking to myself. Actually, it is where I come up with most of my blog posts.

Road bikes have very narrow wheels and skinny tires. Because of this, all of the weight from the bike and rider is transmitted down onto two small points where the front and back tires hit the road. The narrow tires make the bike go faster. The downside is that any little rock or piece of glass you run over has an increased chance of puncturing your tire.…

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Why Perfectionists Are Often the Biggest Failures

perfectionismA few years ago on a college campus, a ceramics professor decided to try an experiment on one of his classes. At the start of the semester he divided the class into two groups and explained that each group would be graded differently.

Group 1 would be graded on the total number of pots they could create throughout the semester, with a minor importance given to quality.

Group 2 would be graded on just one pot. They had all semester to work on just one pot so they better make it impressive.

At the end of the semester, the students all turned in their work for grading. To the professor’s amusement, the 5 highest quality pots all came from the group who was focused on quantity over quality.

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Get In the Pool! Overcoming the Fear of Failure

Get in the pool

Summer is here and in Arizona it means some really hot weather. Those of us who live here spend time moving from an air-conditioned house to an air-conditioned car to the air-conditioned store and back again. Or we end up in a swimming pool.

As soon as our kids are out of school, they start swim team. Every morning they go to one of the public pools for an hour and work on their swim strokes. Then, every Thursday night is the swim meet, where they can compete for a ribbon.

My oldest son is a really good swimmer. He learned to swim really young and he is just a natural in the water.

He also has a tough time wanting to go and compete.

He feels most comfortable staying at home where his world is predictable and there is little fear of failure.…

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Stretch! 3 Ways to Do More With What You Have

stretch reaching-hand

The teacher stopped the presentation and asked for a volunteer from the class. A young lady was the first to raise her hand and was brought to the front of the room.

“I want you to stand against this wall and reach your hands up as high as they can go.” said the teacher.

The young lady went up on the tips of her toes and reached her hands high up the wall, touching a spot with her finger tips.

“That’s as high as you can go?”

“Yes”

“You’re sure?”

When she answered affirmatively again, he stood up on a chair and put a piece of tape on the wall where the tips of her fingers had reached.

Then he took out a $100 bill and told her, “I will give you $100 if you can reach higher than that piece of tape.”

The young lady went back to the wall, got on her tip toes, reached her arms up and then somehow stretched her fingertips about an inch past the tape.…

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